'Kids these days': Daughter drives dad to work while his car is in repairs, but after yelling at her for skipping one morning drive due to a strong migraine, she refuses to drive him anymore, he accuses her of holding a grudge

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Emma Saven
Nov 18, 2025 7:00 AM EST

Family favors are always a pleasure…that is, at least until you get yelled at for not being available 24/7! This daughter drives her dad to work as his car is in repair. They've got a really cute, little carpool situation going on, which really opened a door for some bonding time! However, one morning, his daughter had a terrible migraine and did not feel fit to drive either of them to work, so she asked her father if he could rather catch a lift with one of his colleagues. Instead of understanding, he flipped out…and in that moment, she vowed to never drive him to work again! 

Although it is common for families to argue, often not seeing eye-to-eye, those arguments normally last a total of all 2 seconds! So when this daughter wasn't backing down on her decision, her father accused her of holding a grudge. We guess all families are different. Some are more forgiving, and others…not so much. But are they really going to let a little migraine and a 20-minute drive with Jerry from IT come between them? 

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  • We understand this daughter's frustrations, and we know just how annoying those ‘Kids these days..’ comments can be. Dragging in a whole generation for one of your actions really makes the whole case feel a lot more dramatic! But, we think it may be possible that she, too, could be matching that dramatic status. Sometimes families fight, but now could be the time to hug and make up!

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  • AITJ for Refusing to Drive My Dad to Work After He Yelled at Me for Being Unreliable?

    My dad recently lost his car for a few weeks due to repairs, so he asked if I could drive him to and from work since our schedules are similar.
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  • I agreed because I figured it was temporary and I wanted to help. For the first week everything was fine until one morning I woke up with a migraine.
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  • I barely got out of bed, let alone get behind the wheel. I texted him that I couldn't drive safely and that he'd have to get a ride from a coworker or call a rideshare.
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  • He didn't respond. When he got home that night he slammed the door and started yelling about how unreliable I am and how he can't depend on "kids these days." I tried explaining I literally couldn't drive without risking an accident, but he said I was exaggerating and being "dramatic." I ended up crying and leaving the house for the afternoon to cool off.
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  • The next morning he acted as if nothing happened and asked if we could leave early because he wanted to grab breakfast before work.
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  • I told him he should find another ride because I wasn't comfortable driving him anymore after how he treated me.
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  • He got quiet and then said I was punishing him and holding a grudge. Now he's upset and my mom thinks I should just let it go for the sake of keeping the peace.
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  • I feel guilty but also don't want to be yelled at again for something out of my control.
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  • tldr, dad yelled at me for not driving him to work when I had a migraine.
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  • I told him I won't be giving rides anymore, and now he says I'm holding a grudge.
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  • Unsure if I'm the jerk.
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  • Complete Swimming820 NTJ. Maybe he could try a heartfelt apology?
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  • OP Appropriate-Map5027 Thanks for saying that. I agree, a genuine apology would go a long way. Nobody's perfect, but taking responsibility and acknowledging how their actions affected someone else can really fix a lot of tension. It doesn't have to be dramatic, just honest.
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  • Effective-Several Nope. NTJ. You can clearly tell him that since he decided you were unreliable, then he needs to find somebody who can reliably get him to work. I've had migraines. They suck. And I totally understand why you didn't want to drive, because you didn't feel that you could do that and still be safe. Your dad doesn't understand that obviously, so now he can get his own ride.
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  • Bobsmith38594 NTJ. If you had a headache severe enough to keep you from getting out of bed, then you weren't fit to drive. Let your dad take ride shares, public transportation, and ubers if he wants to be so mouthy. Don't cave either, he owes you an apology. Your mom can play his chauffeur if she is so keen on being a floor mat (read: "keep the peace").
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  • NTJ. Amazing-Wave4704 Tell him words he's looking for are: Im sorry. And also: Thank you. And I wouldn't drive him til you get them. That said how old are you? Do you live with your parents? Do you pay rent? My answer might change if you are above 18, live with them, and dont pay rent.
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  • ClimaximumOverdrive NTA at all, dude. Soz but your pops needs to chill the heck out. Being sick ain't something you can control, let alone a freakin' migraine. You were absolutely right in not driving; safety first, homie. U're not an Uber service, you were doing him a favor! Good on ya for standing your ground. Peace out & take care of yourself
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  • istoomycat You were the one who was punished. By him. He was uncaring and only thought of himself. Then asks you to leave earlier thr next day. Some example he is setting for "kids".
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  • PersonalityFuture151 I lent my dad my car after his went into the shop for a new tranny. He brought it back with a big dent in the tail gate (a station wagon). He probably backed into something and didn't even know. His goodness to me over the years passed through my mind and I just asked him to get it fixed and smiled. He had it for two weeks!
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  • yamahamama61 Are you paying rent.? Contributing in a meaningful way to the house hold income.? Yea. He was an @$$. But he could have kicked you out.
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